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Have more fun in bed with these proven strategies for improving sex.
You Will Need
- Exercise
- Deep breathing
- Hair tugging
- An emotional connection
- A marriage license
- A feminist partner
- Masturbation (optional)
- Wealth (optional)
Step 1: Get some exercise
Get moving. Exercise activates the sympathetic nervous system, encouraging blood flow to the genital region. One study found that women were more sexually responsive following 20 minutes of vigorous exercise.
Men who are physically active may reduce their chance of erectile dysfunction by up to 30 percent.
Step 2: Take a deep breath
Take a lot of slow, deep breaths when you’re on the verge of orgasm. You’ll climax more intensely by increasing blood flow to your genitals. You can also try our newest Gigi Vibrator for intense orgasm.
Step 3: Tug each other’s hair
Tug each other’s hair in the home stretch. It releases endorphins, which in turn intensify orgasm.
Studies suggest that women who masturbate have better orgasms during intercourse than those who don’t.
Step 4: Have a love connection
Be in love. Studies indicate that couples who have a strong emotional connection have more satisfying sex.
Step 5: Make it legal
Get married. Surveys show married people have better sex than singles do. You can also try our sexy lingerie and dress up costumes during your honeymoon to make your lovemaking more exciting.
Even better, marry someone rich. Wealthy people have sex more often and are more likely to reach orgasm than the middle and lower classes.
Step 6: Sleep with a feminist
Hook up with a feminist. Research shows that men with a feminist partner and women with a male who identifies himself as a feminist have healthier relationships and better sex lives. Let’s hear it for equality!
You burn up to 200 calories after 30 minutes of sex.
Source for further reading:
Taylor, Llyn Madame Rouge Australia NOv.9, 2009
Howcast How to have Better Sex Life Nov. 9, 2009
By: Shasta Daisy McCarty
For basics, go shopping with what you need already firmly in mind.
That way you can sort through the merchandise more quickly. If you are
making more adventurous lingerie purchases, take some time (and a close
friend or two) and make a day of it.
Bras: Get your fitting done at an upscale department store. If the salesgirl at Victoria’s Secret is measuring your size while you still have your current bra on, she doesn’t know what she is doing. After you have your numbers there is still a lot of trial and error involved. Bra straps adjustments can’t compensate for all fit issues. Make sure you have selected a style with cups that are the correct depth and placement for your breast shape before you worry about the straps and band.
Underwear: French cut is a nice choice if you don’t like the leg bands to dig into your hips. Boy shorts tend to roll up on the thighs. Try slightly shorter hipsters which offer the same smooth outline to avoid this problem. Bikini panties are great for low rise jeans. Just don’t wear them under slacks and pencil skirts – they tend to create a visible panty line. Thongs are one of those styles women either love or hate. Purchase one thong your first time to see which category you fall into. Covered waistbands with no tags make any underwear selection more comfortable.
Body Shapers: If you can find one that doesn’t make you bulge out at the top or bottom, more power to you. Consider spending that extra money to have your clothes tailored to fit better instead.
Now, on to the flirty and romantic lingerie!
Tip #1 Shop in local stores first before making online purchases. Then, you will have a good idea of what sizes and styles work for you.
Tip #2 Always follow the care directions on the tag to extend the life of your lingerie.
Fabrics – Silk georgette has an incredibly soft texture. However, chiffon is similar and may fit your budget better. Satin tends to cling to your skin. So, if you are sensitive about your shape, try crushed velvet or chenille. These fabrics are touchable and more forgiving. Lace, embroidery, and even sequins make great accents; but don’t overdo it unless you want a real cabaret look. In that case, take it all the way with glam makeup and heels.
Colors – If you are a “spring” on the famous color chart, you may be able to get away with wearing baby blue and pink pastels. However, most women look best in the winter palette which includes rich jewel tones as well as the basic black and white.
Choose styles that flaunt your favorite assets. A bustier is designed to draw attention to your cleavage. The similarly designed corset accents your waist. I recommend using a corset more for show than for shaping so you can take your partner’s breath away (while still being able to breathe yourself). Both of these strapless garments work well to show off your shoulders.
The teddy or duckie can be playful or sensuous depending on style and mood. Choose one that is well made and won’t tear the first time you wear it. Cut outs and keyhole styles let you choose where to lead the eye. Wear a diaphanous robe over your teddy at the beginning of an intimate evening to add even more mystery.
If you prefer to draw attention away from your midsection and down to your fabulous legs, go for floating baby doll night gowns or silky camisoles on top. Pair these items with V-front panties and a garter belt for very a flattering look
Are you sensitive about your hips? Try a chemise (basically a mini-dress) which offers more coverage of this area. Ruffles and lace can distract from cellulite, so pick something flirty and fun.
Thigh high hose with elastic tops are great for everyday wear; but they do leave groove marks in your legs for a while after you take them off. Use a garter belt and non-elasticized thigh highs instead for romance. Don’t forget to add at least one pair of fishnets to your lingerie wardrobe. Paired with any outfit, these add just the right saucy touch.
Above all, if you want to be cool and unique inside your bedroom, you can wear a military lingerie, french maid costume or even wear a sexy nurse outfit with matching soft touch whip.
Source for further reading:
McCarty, Shasta How to shop for lingerie Nov.6, 2009
Taylor,Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Nov. 6, 2009
GIGI is a dedicated pleasure object for the discerning G-spot connoisseur. Carefully sculpted to unlock the secrets of this mysterious and special place, her dramatic shape breathes an air of investigative purpose. Five pre-programmed pleasure modes and a virtually silent vibrator engine deliver deep and vibrant sensations with spot-on precision. As an expert in her particular field, GIGI will happily assist in revealing the thrills of the elusive “G”, anytime, anywhere.
Choose from 5 different patterns (steady vibration, slow/medium/fast pulse, or rollercoaster) and 7 speeds to explore all the possibilities of this little beauty. Hour and a half of charge with the included charger will offer up to 2 hours of play. To see the power level simply check the white LED ring around the controls – if it shows red, it will need a recharge.
Watch this Video Demonstration:
Lelo Gigi is rechargeable (plug it in like a mobile phone) and a 1-hour charge will provide up to 1,5 hours of bliss. With a travel lock function, so that you always arrive at your destination with no buzzing accidents the unlock function is enabled by holding down the buttons to “lock” the controls.
Gigi is made by Lelo the premium Swedish sex toy manufacturer, and comes in an elegant gift box with charger, manual, satin pouch and the 1-year LELO warranty.
LELO GIGI Freatures Overview
Made from a soft, flexible material LELO Gigi is pthalate free (like all LELO products) and so gives you the extra peace of mind for your safety.
Specs:
GIGI is rechargeable and a 2-hour charge will provide
up to 1,5 hours of bliss. Comes presented in an elegant
gift box, accessorised with charger, manual, satin pouch
and a 1-year LELO warranty.
For more information you can visit this website: http://www.madamerouge.com.au/products/gigi-by-lelo-deep-rose.html
“I tied him up, climbed on and shagged him silly” I booked a hotel room and asked my man to meet me in the bar after he finished work. I got there before him, dressed in the works: stockings, red knickers and bra, a satin dress and a scarf around my neck. A dark wig finished the outfit off and I went to sit at the bar. He came into the bar and didn’t recognize me at first but when I spoke to the barman he heard me and got the hint.
We chatted like strangers and had a few drinks, before I offered him a nightcap in my room. Once we were up there, I took over, tied him to the bed, climbed on top and tried to shag him silly. But it didn’t work as he persuaded me to let him loose. Big mistake! I ended up tied up with my own stockings and gagged with my scarf. The next two hours I was licked and fucked like never before. The change really worked for both of us… Anon
Source for further reading:
Anon True Confessions Nov. 4, 2009
Taylor, Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Nov 4, 2009
Rediscover the joy of sex with this five-step program developed by renowned sex therapists.
You Will Need
- A cooperative partner
- Self-discipline
- Candles (optional)
- Music (optional)
- Creams, lotions, and oils (optional)
Step 1: Avoid sex
Commit to not having intercourse until you get to the end of this therapeutic process. Even if lack of desire is your biggest problem, you may be surprised at how much you’ll crave sex once you’re forbidden to have it.
Both parties should give up pornography as well during the no-sex period.
Step 2: Get touchy feely
For your first session, remain fully clothed as you each take a 10-minute turn feeling the other person all over. Try to recreate the exciting groping of your adolescence. Don’t speak during this exercise; focus solely on sensation, both when you touch your partner and when you’re being touched.
Create a more intimate space with candles and soft music.
Step 3: Repeat
Wait a few days, and then repeat the exercise. This time, do it in the nude, but avoid touching breasts, anuses, and genitals.
Step 4: Give some signals
Wait a few more days, and then repeat the nude touching exercise, this time with no area off-limits. Again, do not speak. But if your partner touches you in a pleasurable way, let them know by squeezing their hand.
Feel free to use creams, lotions, and oils in your foreplay.
Step 5: Begin mutual touching
After another few days with no physical contact, move on to stage four — mutual nude touching. In other words, the turn-taking is over and you can now do anything you want — short of oral sex and intercourse.
Step 6: Have no-pressure sex
Forgo physical contact for another few days, and then engage in “nondemand intercourse” which means intercourse without the expectation of achieving orgasm. In fact, if one of you is about to climax, slow down the action. By this time, you both hopefully are panting for unrestricted sexual activity, which you can now enjoy.
Step 7: Repeat as needed
Repeat this process whenever your sex life needs a jolt.
The average American couple has sex about 66 times a year.
Source for further reading:
Howcast How To Rev Up Your Sex Drive With Sensate Focus Techniques Nov.3, 2009
Taylor, Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Nov.3, 2009
“I proceeded to lick him from head to toe”
I was seeing this guy who had only ever slept with one woman before me – he’d had a girlfriend for eight years, so getting him into my bed was a mission. His ex must’ve been pretty straight in the sack, as when I whipped out my box of toys for the first time, he almost spunked his load there and then. Anyway, I liked him and thought it’d be fun teaching him a thing or two. After we’d been seeing each other for a few weeks, I finally got him in bed and told him I had a surprise for him.
I tied him to my headboard with my stockings, blindfolded him, and proceeded to lick him from head to toe spending plenty of time on his knob. My hands ran all over his body and within half a second he came like the falls. I sucked it all down hungrily before freeing him from the bed and removing his blindfold. I could see the lad was in a bit of state but I fell asleep soon after. The next morning we woke up and he seemed more nervous than ever. Eventually he plucked up the courage and said I was too experienced for him and that he couldn’t go out with me. When he left my house I fell about in fits of giggles.
Posted: RHIANA, PORTSMOUTH
Source for further reading
Rhiana, True Confessions Nov 2, 2009
Taylor, Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Nov 2, 2009
Are you a good kisser? Anyone can be, with the right technique.
You Will Need
- A partner you’re passionate about
- And a comfortable space, such as a couch
Step 1: Clean your mouth
Brush your teeth, floss and use mouthwash. Bad breath is the ruination of kissing. At the very least, have a mint.
Step 2: Sit w/ partner in private
Sit with your partner, preferably in private. Public displays of affection may be fun for you, but they make everyone else uncomfortable.
Step 3: Relax
Relax and clear your mind. Focus only on the person with you.
Angle your face to avoid crunching noses.
Step 4: Touch lips
Lean into the person until your lips touch.
Step 5: Be soft & gentle
Keep lip contact soft and gentle in the beginning.
Step 6: Experiment
Experiment with different movements and techniques. For instance, gently suck on your partner’s lower lip, or caress his lips lightly with your tongue.
Step 7: Use your tongue
Open your mouth enough to slowly slide your tongue into your partner’s mouth. If you get an enthusiastic response, start exploring the inside of each other’s mouth. Just remember to keep it slow and soft, not darting or invasive.
Don’t forget to breathe through your nose. Nothing ruins a good make-out like falling unconscious.
Step 8: Come up for air
As the make-out session intensifies, come up for air by kissing your partner’s face, ears, and neck, even giving them the occasional soft nip or gently tugging on their hair in the heat of the moment.
Truly passionate kissing has a sense of urgency, as if you’ve been waiting for this moment for so long that you can’t hold back.
Step 9: Use your hands
Use your hands: kissing is made complete by strokes and caresses. Try holding the person’s face as you kiss.
Step 10: Practice
Practice makes perfect.
Source for further reading:
Howcast How to kiss with passion Nov 1, 2009
Taylor, Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Nov 1, 2009
You Will Need
* Acting skills
* Good timing
Step 1: Moan gently
Start off by moaning gently a few times. Keep your eyes half-open and your face neutral.
Step 2: Offer encouragement
As you moan, offer a few words of encouragement, like a breathless, “yes, yes” or “that feels so good.”
Step 3: Kick it up
Gradually get louder. Moan more aggressively. Breathe harder and faster.
The key word is “gradually.” If you skip from content murmuring to screams of sexual ecstasy, your performance won’t just be fake—it’ll be downright insulting.
Step 4: Make faces
As you progress, make more intense faces—bite your lip, open your mouth, furrow your brow, grit your teeth.
Step 5: Move around
Make sure you move around—this is a full-body performance. “Involuntarily” jerking your legs is a nice touch. Just don’t make it look you’re having an epileptic fit.
Make sure you have time to fake your orgasm before your partner climaxes—especially since the kind of guy you need to fake it with is probably also “fast on the draw.”
Step 6: Announce it
Announce your imminent bliss with a breathless, “Oh God, I’m almost there!”
Step 7: Go for it
Squeeze your partner extra-tightly and pretend you’ve lost all ability to control yourself—scream, thrash around, go intensely quiet, draw in quick, short breaths—whatever you do when you’re actually having an orgasm.
Step 8: Include him
While you fake it, scream out that you want him to orgasm, too. Guys like that.
Step 9: Compliment incoherently
When you’re done, immediately compliment his lovemaking skills with gasping incoherence, like: “That was… you… I… uh… amazing.”
Step 10: Linger
Linger afterward. The best actors stay in character even when the camera isn’t rolling.
According to a survey of 15,000 sexually active adults, 72% of women and 24% of men have faked an orgasm.
Source for further reading:
Howcast How to Fake An Orgasm Oct 31, 2009
Taylor,Llyn Madame Rouge Australia Oct. 31,2009
Why is Halloween so sexy? I can think of about a dozen reasons, but here are my top six:
- Getting dressed up is sexy.
- Eating candy is sexy.
- Wearing make up is sexy (with the proper lighting).
- Pretending you’re someone else is sexy.
- Being scared is sexy (being terrified is sexier!)
- Even that cheap satin used in so many sexy Halloween costumes is sexy.
For some, Halloween is sexy because of the nostalgic thrill of childhood Halloweens; getting to stay up late, wandering around the streets after dark, indulgence, make up, turning everything on its head. It’s ultimate freedom for one night.
As adults we can also use Halloween as an excuse to explore parts of our sexuality we might otherwise feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about. In this way Halloween can be a great sexual motivator and instigator, where one night of abandon can open up sexual doors that can be walked through the whole year round. Here are some sexy Halloween inspired ideas for scary sexy fun on October 31.
Sexy Halloween Dress Up
This may be the most obvious, but it can also be the most fun part of exploring. I guarantee you that everyone can learn something from dressing up as a gender other than the one they play during the day. And why go through life without ever once wielding Wonder Woman’s Lasso of Truth, or King Arthur’s Sword (are you getting the idea here?) There are plenty of places to find sexy Halloween costumes, but your imagination will always win out over store bought goodies.
Get Into It
The Halloween costume may be the excuse, but you’ve got to dig deep to turn a cautious flirtation with edginess into a full fledged sexual freak out. It’s the opportunity to explore all aspects of sexual role play, so don’t pass it up!
Play with your Food
Food is sexy, to be sure, and Halloween is all about food you get to eat with your hands. Whether you want to scare up a peeled grape/oozing eyeball massage, or a chocolate syrup/fake blood bath, or if you simply want to get hopped up on sugar and hop into bed, the childlike abandon of Halloween can be an excuse to bring some messy play back into your sex life. Always remember to play safe and wash your fruits and vegetables first!
Halloween Homemade Sex Toys
Some people spend weeks and months preparing their costume for Halloween. Others focus their interests on sex toys, preparing for a sexy Halloween in a different way, by creating Halloween themed sex toys. Not for everyone, to be sure, but I promise you’ll never look at a pumpkin the same again.
Cuddle up and get Scared
The relationship between sex and horror has been the subject of countless articles, books, and television programs. Getting scared can get us hot, and, as one television documentary producer put it, when you come right down to it, what terrifies us more than our sexuality? Rent a scary movie, tell each other scary stories, and then give your lover comfort all night long.
Source for Further Reading:
Silverberg, Corey Sexuality Oct 28, 2009
